Would You Hire A Boston Wing Woman?

Dating can be really easy for some and really difficult for others.  To add to the varying degrees of difficulty, there are so many methods to "meeting the one" or "meeting the one for right now."

You could go to the bar, you could have friends introduce you to someone, you could go to a singles gathering like 8-minute dating, you can sign up on a free or paid website for dates or for sex friends, or you can hire a stranger to pretend to be your best girl friend.

Wait, what was that last one?

That's right, you can now hire someone to pretend to be a good friend for the night and be your wing woman.

I've signed on to various email lists so that I know what's happening around Boston, and this morning Thrillist.com (which is mainly targeting guys) is highlighting a new business called HireaBostonWing Woman.com.

hireabostonwingwoman.com

Go ahead and check it out.  I'll wait.

*takes a sip of coffee...plays with the kitties...*

Okay, are you back?  What did you think?  Let me tell you what I think.

From first impressions, I think it's absolutely fascinating.  Really, it's a great business idea.  Take dating back to face to face interactions, and use the amazing relationship building skills of women to a guys advantage.

What girl hasn't been a wing man for a guy friend?  Some are definitely more successful than others, but it's a proven success.  If you just started dating a guy, you would want to know what his friends are like and you would definitely want to make sure his female friends approve of you.  This cuts through all of that by starting with female relationship building.

But wait...what happens if you hit it off?  What if the relationship goes really well and she asks, "Hey, where's that friend of yours that was at the bar the night we met?"

So, that's just really one question the website brought up to me.

What if the man is more attracted to the wing woman?  I'm sure that there are rules about the relationship between the man and the wing woman (mainly because it seems that if you're a lesbian trying to hire a wing woman, you've just got really bad mojo...but also because the site is geared towards helping guys).  The relationship probably has to be terminated.

Is this a new form of sex work?  Perhaps, except that the woman would almost be more like a pimp, pimping the guy out.  I'm not against sex work at all if the sex worker is not forced into the job by another person or by their financial situations - if you want to use sex to get money even if you still have the means to use other occupations, go for it!  But there's just something that feels really sneaky and sleazy about this mode of finding dates.  Which leads me to my next question.

Is the man hiring a wing woman out there trying to look for a serious relationship or just increasing his number of possible dates or just looking for a one night stand?  It seems that the website really leaves that open by calling the other woman "a woman of interest."  Whatever the guy wants, the wing woman is in charge of helping him get.  So, even if the guy is a complete and utter douchtard, it's your job to help him seem like an honorable human being.

Does hiring a wing woman insinuate that the man doesn't have any female friends?  To me, it sort of does.  If you were already a great guy, your girl friends would either want to date you or would want to help you find dates.  If you were already a great guy, your female friends would already want to look out for your best interest - and that includes weeding out the shady girls.  I guess one could argue that a guy wouldn't want to put his female friends in an awkward position like that.  But I really do believe that if you're worth it, your female friends will help you out.

There is definitely something to be said about this "new" way of getting a date.  All methods of finding a date has its benefits and its downfalls.

If you were to meet someone through a friend, things could be awesome - until things started going bad.  Would you lose a set of friends if your relationship went sour?

If you meet someone at a bar, most of the time they're intoxicated and probably not using the best judgement and neither are you. There's also a higher possibility of date rape.

If you go to a singles event, it could be a lot of fun and you can even do some networking.  But it's sometimes all to similar to being at a bar or club, except you know that everyone in the room is single.

If you meet someone online, there's no guarantee that their picture is the most accurate or most recent.  I've personally had someone tell me that they were black, and proceed to call me on their way over to let me know that they were actually whiter than white.  That's a story for another time, but you get my point.

So, I'm not necessarily against hireabostonwingwoman.com.  I really do think it's quite an ingenious concept, though it's not necessarily a new one (Go ahead and Google it).  But it does raise quite a lot of questions, as I'm sure online dating did when it first began.

At the end of the day, it's just another way to get dates by putting yourself out there - whether it's by being who you are or who you would like to appear to be.

Point of Views on Middle Eastern Dance - "Civilization" Video Game

This lazy Saturday morning, my boyfriend is trying out some new games he's acquired.  I wake up to see him playing Sid Meier's Civilization Revolution.

Taking over the world...one culture at a time...

Having very limited knowledge of video games, though I will admit that I dabble once in a while, I was at first shocked to see the representations of different cultures.  But as I was still rubbing the sleep out of my eyes, my boyfriend told me that he was currently playing as Saladin, "a Kurdish Muslim warrior and self-proclaimed Sultan of Arabia."

If you take a look at the website, there's 16 different cultures you can represent, from Aztec Nation to Zulu Nation.  Each leader is accompanied by historical background, all factual.

So, from what I've gathered, you can use different tactics to win game - technology, culture, economic, and warfare.  But I'm assuming it would be beneficial to use all the tactics in one way or another.  But, as my boyfriend had already built up some culture points, there was a hall in the capital that featured acrobats, dancing bears, and belly dancers.

I managed to grab some video of the dancing, and thought it would be neat to share.

Not bad, really.  I see a couple of figure 8's, undulations, Egyptian hip hits.  I tried to find some information on the music, but I couldn't really find much of anything.  If anyone recognizes it, please let me know in the comments!

In general, it does seem like the game tries really hard to be true to history, so I didn't find myself too offended after watching more of the game play.  I did appreciate the presence of Middle Eastern dancers, and the fact that they weren't completely "Hollywood-ized."

Fair Warning to Whipper Tickler Lovers

Got a kitty?

Caught in the act!

 My new kitty, Yoni, got a hold of my Whipper Tickler...

It's hers now.

Goddess Weekend - Part 1: Newport and Athena's Holiday Party

Wow...What a weekend!!!

The Goddesses took over the Newport Marriott on the weekend of January 8th, sharing personal stories and just having a jolly good time.

This was my first time spending a whole weekend with the Goddess, and I was very happy to also share the weekend with my boyfriend.

Oh my Goddess, though, it was FREEZING!!!  This California Girl did not understand why it was so much colder south of Boston!  The boyfriend explained something to be about being close to the ocean, but I'm afraid my brain was freezing over at that point, and I couldn't even tell you what his explanation was.

So cold the ocean was freezing!

Either way, it was a grand old time.  Newport is a beautiful little town, though just as confusing to drive around what with all the One-Way streets.  The Newport Marriott was amazing!  The boyfriend even brought our XBox and Rock Band to keep himself occupied during the times I attended meetings.

The boyfriend also noted that the hotel must have been prepared for my arrival.  All the decorations were ocean themed!

Jellyfish Chandelier

Fathoms Restaurant

Part 1 of the Fathoms Bar Ceiling

Part 2 of the Fathoms Bar Ceiling

I knew I was going to enjoy myself at this place, regardless of the temperature outside. 

This was my first time attending an Athena's Holiday Party.  Mardi Gras was the theme, and the beads were flowing.  Luckily, the boyfriend and I were prepared with masks from a masquerade ball fundraiser in October 2009.

Ready to Party!

The Holiday Party was a blast!  The Boston Babydolls performed some burlesque for the Goddesses, and I was excited to see a fellow belly dancer I knew.

I only wish that I took more pictures of the party!  I think I was too busy enjoying the food, the performances, and the dancing that I neglected my camera a bit.

But, no worries!  I got a ton of shots of the new Valentine's Line during the Sales Meeting!

That's next post....

Let 2010 Be My Goddess Year

While 2009 had a lot of blessings, the latter half was full of challenges.

At one point on New Years Eve, I was getting my nails did and I reflected on 2009.  I must admit that I felt the tears welling up inside me as the spa chair rollers went up my back.  It had been a really tough year.

I couldn't wait for 2010, a new beginning, another chance, a reason for hope.

Then I came across this:

I quickly decided that I needed to participate.

At all the Athena's Sales Meetings, we talk a lot about thinking positively and truly living it.  I'll be the first to admit that it was difficult to walk that talk in 2009.

But with 4 days of 2010 behind me, I think it's time for me to take up this challenge.

I'll be talking some time to use this Goddess blog as a space to reflect on my Goddess Guidebook.  I hope you enjoy a bit of the journey.

Euphemisms

My boyfriend has taken to telling people that I sell "marital aids."

For some reason, that euphemism makes me cringe.

At first, he used it to explain my Goddess job to his family.  Now he just does it to mess with me.

For one thing, I feel like it just sounds gross for some reason.  Maybe it's the fact that it's a euphemism makes me feel that I'm being sneaky.  Then, there's the implications.

Let's break it down, shall we?

Calling them "marital aids" implies that ONLY heterosexual married couple can purchase and use them.  What a way to pigeonhole the product!!!  You can't even just be committed...you have to be in a legal union.

When I Googled "marital aids," the first site listed implicitly says "If you are 18 years of age or older AND married, please enter. Browse the many selections for both you and your marriage covenant lover."

I almost wasn't sure if they were going to ask for a marriage certificate.  The website focuses on the fact that romance is only allowed if Christ is part of the marriage, and they even offer a complete package of goodies that includes "Intimate Bible Studies."  Oh, my!
 
Interestingly, this just doesn't seem the case with me.  I don't often do co-ed parties, and usually the co-ed parties aren't just for couples.

For the most part, people assume that I'm out to replace a partner.  I often explain that I'm not out to replace anybody, but that we're enhancing the situation.  How will you know how to please your partner if your partner doesn't even know how to please themselves?

So, I'm done ranting now.  I've also convinced my boyfriend to us "adult toy" instead.

Your 2nd Chance to Be the Mystery Hostess!

YOU could be the Mystery Hostess!

 

Here's how it works:

• Place an order with me (via email or phone).
• If you place a $50 order, you will get 1 entry to win the 10-15% discount.
• If you place a $100 order, you will get 4 entries to win the 10-15% discount!

There is one more deadline (I will be sending out reminder emails in the days leading up to the deadlines):

• Saturday, December 19, 2009 at 11:59pm

I pick the winner on the Sunday following the deadline, and will contact the winner by phone and announce the winner on my Facebook, Twitter, and Blog!

So, gather your friends together in an email message or Facebook page or what have you!  Contact me by email or phone!  Get something back just for your own self-pleasure! ;)

Lesson Learned? - texts from last night

texts from last night

(412): Vibrator and massage oils got stopped at security. Super.

Well...I'm personally hoping that they had lube somewhere else and weren't using the massage oils for lube!

Is it obvious that I think too much like a Goddess?

Also, they probably should have taken the batteries out of the vibrator...that might help depending on how "dangerous" it looks in the X-Ray.  That way, the batteries won't be losing power when they're not in use on the plane ride. ;)

And the Mystery Hostess is.....

Karly B!

Congratulations!!

She gets 10% off her total order!

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There's one more chance to be the Mystery Hostess!

Email or call in your orders by December 19th, at 11:59pm!
$50 orders get one entry, $100 orders get four entries!

(More information in the previous post.)

Be The Mystery Hostess for December 5th and 19th!

YOU could be the Mystery Hostess!

I love the Holidays!  For me, it means that I get to give presents...and yes, getting them ain't too bad either.

This December, I want to give
2 chances for one of you to WIN a 10-15% discount.


Here's how it works:

• Place an order with me (via email or phone).
  
• If you place a $50 order, you will get 1 entry to win the 10-15% discount.
• If you place a $100 order, you will get 4 entries to win the 10-15% discount!

There are 2 deadlines (I will be sending out reminder emails in the days leading up to the deadlines):

• Saturday, December 5, 2009 at 11:59pm
• Saturday, December 19, 2009 at 11:59pm

I pick the winners on the Sunday following the deadline, and will contact the winners by phone and announce the winner on my Facebook, Twitter, and Blog!

"But wait...there's more!!!"
If you are the December 5 Mystery Hostess Winner, you will be put in a drawing to win $1000 CASH from Athena's (we reeeeeaaaaaaallllyyy like giving...can you tell?)!!!

So, gather your friends together in an email message or Facebook page or what have you!  Contact me by email or phone!  Get something back just for your own self-pleasure! ;)

 

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CLICK HERE to see my December Newsletter

Adult Versions of Disney Princes

These images are popping up everywhere...so, I had to share as well.

Why, yes...that is Prince Eric from Disney's "The Little Mermaid."

First, I was like...Whoa.....then, I was like, Well, hello there Prince Eric....

I gotta say, though, I love the "Fish Fetish" tattoo on his arm...absolutely classy...

Some of the images are really quite hot for sexed-up cartoons.  Then, there are some I absolutely disagree with (like the one of Peter Pan...yet, I'm still posting the link...hahaha!).

A couple of things are true, however.  The artist, "David Kawena," is absolutely fabulous...and you will find at least one image that will raise your eyebrow.

"I've Never Had Sex..."

Have you ever played the game "Never Have I Ever"?

It's a fun and interesting game to play with friends and with people you've never met.  I believe the game also has different variations in the names, such as "10 Fingers."

For the over 21 crowd, it's a guaranteed good time as a drinking game, and for the younger crowd you can really gain some insight about who your friends are and what you'd like to try next.

Basically, one person says the statement, "Never have I ever..." and finishes the sentence.  Those who have done whatever the person noted has to take a drink or put down one finger.  Now, it could be as benign as never having left the country.  But it could, and often does get personal...very quickly!  By the end of the game, you'll know who's been the naughtiest of you all.

Hi, My Green Porno Name Is...

YOUR GREEN PORNO NAME IS:

Molly Puffer

http://www.sundancechannel.com/greenporno/green-porno-name/

And...

   
       


But you should also know how I plan to seduce you:
   

       
So, how about you?